An extraordinary relationship begins with a clear conversation.
Relationship coaching for singles and couples, in the language of your feelings: in Deutsch, Español and English. For people between 28 and 55 who no longer want to stay alone, or who have reached a point in their relationship where things can't go on as they are.
The intro call is free and non-binding.
Do you recognize yourself?
You are single, or you are letting go of a relationship.
You are in a relationship.
This is not a sign that something is wrong with you. If you recognize yourself here, it is a good starting point for a conversation.
Book a free intro callClarity, closeness and the language of your feelings.
In about ten years I have coached more than 100 people. Three things shape my work.
Coaching in the language of your feelings.
When two partners speak different languages, each often speaks the language in which their emotions are strongest. I coach in Deutsch, Español and English, put things in context and translate, so that language never stands between you.
See clearly first, then act.
I studied philosophy and teach as a Buddhist teacher. That shapes my work: first we clarify what you really want, and then we recognize what stands in your way. Step by step, with the result in sight.
From single to a strong partnership.
From the question of whether someone is the right person to what comes after: the wish for children, family, closeness in everyday life. You don't have to change coaches when your phase of life changes.
Two starting points, one goal: a relationship that holds.
You want to arrive, not keep searching.
We clarify what you truly need in a partnership, which patterns have accompanied you so far, and how to attract someone who fits you.
You are stuck and want to find your way back to each other.
In a protected space you say what has long gone unsaid, and find a way that works for both of you.
Relationships succeed under certain conditions.
Whether you are single or in a relationship: a fulfilling result arises when the right foundations are in place. Together we find out which of them already support you and which are still missing.
What holds a relationship
A strong relationship does not arise by chance. It grows when certain conditions are met. Some of them:
What makes you ready
The step into a partnership also begins with you. Some conditions:
These are not the only conditions.
There are many more, and every situation is different. These are part of the foundation, not a complete list and not a promise. Without them it becomes hard; with them you lay the groundwork. In the intro call we find out together which of them matter for you right now and what you are not yet ready for.
Questions you don't have to answer alone.
Some decisions in a relationship don't need a long process, just a clear conversation. For that you can also book a single session.
If you are still on your own
I have never been in a relationship.
You want a partnership and have no experience with it yet. We build the foundation: self-confidence, clarity about what you are looking for, and the assurance to show it when you meet someone.
Request a single sessionHow do I know whether this is the right person for me?
You are getting to know someone and are unsure whether it should become a partnership. We clarify what you truly need in a relationship, which patterns play a part when getting to know someone, and how you can tell whether a relationship can hold.
Request a single sessionWhy do I keep attracting the same kind of people?
You keep meeting people who are emotionally unavailable and wonder why. We look at your patterns and beliefs, at the part you play in it, and at what you can change so that you find and recognize someone who truly fits you.
Request a single sessionWhen you are getting to know each other
How do I bring up my wish for children clearly?
Many people wait before they say they want children, hoping it will work itself out. We clarify what you truly want and how to raise it early, honestly and without pressure, so that both of you know where you stand.
Request a single sessionIf you are in a relationship
Since we are expecting or have a child, everything is different.
With pregnancy and a child, a relationship changes fundamentally: time, roles, closeness. We look at how you stay connected despite children and shape closeness consciously.
Request a single sessionWhen it is ending or you want to let go
When is the right time to separate?
You wonder whether to stay or go and can't get further on your own. We go through it together: what you really want, what still holds and what doesn't, and which decision you can take responsibility for. The decision is yours. I help you make it clearly.
Request a single sessionI can't let go of someone.
You know it is over and still can't let go. We look at what holds you, which beliefs and patterns are behind it, and how you become free for what you want instead.
Request a single sessionTwo packages for your path.
Both packages are available for individual and couples coaching.
Payment in instalments is possible for the packages by arrangement. After the intro call you will receive everything else about booking and paying for your package. In accordance with § 19 UStG (German small business regulation), no VAT is charged.
The Viloria Method: Clarity, Readiness, Action
Seven steps that build on each other. Together we clarify which conditions for your goal are still missing. Change arises from your own insight, so we only move on when you are ready. The start is always a free intro call.
I am Ramsés Viloria, relationship coach.
For years I studied psychology and Buddhism. But what moved me most were always romantic relationships, and in them I failed for a long time to build something lasting. A relationship with heavily burdening patterns finally forced me to look closely: which principles truly sustain a partnership?
I looked for them, with love coaches and in Buddhist practice, and applied them in my life until I understood what matters in shaping relationships, in love just as in friendship and work.
For about ten years I have been coaching people, more than 100 of them in individual and couples sessions, and teaching as a Buddhist teacher worldwide. I studied philosophy and Spanish, and then specialized in coaching.
Today I live these principles in my own marriage, every day.
“I chose him because he inspired me: seeing how he is, how he speaks and how he explains things.”
From a client's feedback, anonymousResponsibility as room to act.
When people keep failing at the same points in a partnership, or on the way to one, it is deeply frustrating. I help you recognize your blind spots: the patterns you cannot see from the inside.
The core of my work is responsibility. Not as blame, but as room to act: if you already have a share in what happens, you can shape it consciously. The moment someone grasps that and noticeably moves closer to their partner is the most beautiful part of this work for me.
It starts with a question: what do you really want?
Together we work out what you intend, and look at why you have not yet achieved that result. We find the core of the issue, recognize the blocks and beliefs that stand in your way, and release them.
This opens new ways of perceiving and acting, always with the result in view. In relationships, that concretely means: more closeness.
Coaching in the language of your feelings.
When two partners speak different languages, each often speaks the language in which their emotions are strongest. I run sessions in German, Spanish and English, put things in context, translate and create clarity about what it is really about.
That way language never becomes an obstacle between you.
“Real closeness is the only thing a partnership is worth it for.”
Book a free intro callWhat people say about working together.
Four pieces of feedback from four different people, published anonymously. Translated from German and Spanish.
“Before, I felt stuck in my relationship dynamic and didn't know how to change that.”
“We have more closeness, can communicate much better and find solutions. We can now talk lovingly about relationship dynamics and needs.”
From a client's feedback, anonymous“From the first session on, I personally felt very understood, with a lot of empathy for my point of view. And there was just as much understanding for the other side, that is, for my partner. I think that gave us a lot of trust, because there was a lot of fairness and room for both of us.”
“We were both able to understand each other's needs better and become more empathetic, and our communication improved a lot. The process undoubtedly helped us enormously to lay the foundation for a healthy and, above all, fulfilling relationship.”
From a couples coaching client's feedback, anonymous“Before, it was horrible. I was very confused and had no idea how to handle certain things.”
“You gave me structure and a view of things I didn't even know existed. Once I realized that, I could see that I could do things differently, and thanks to the structure, I knew how.”
From a client's feedback, anonymous“I'm taking away so much from today's session: a fairly clear action plan and a lot of help to keep processing all of this.”
“It helped me especially to be able to share with you the things I have been working on and the thoughts that have been coming up, because I feel that you know how to help me give them direction and use them in a positive way to keep growing.”
From a client's feedback, anonymousTalk to me before you decide.
In the free intro call you tell me where you stand. I tell you honestly whether and how I can help you. You take on no obligation.
30 minutes, free and non-binding. You choose a free slot and tell me whether you are coming alone or as a couple and in which language we will speak: Deutsch, Español or English.
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